Belonging ...

For those who have never had any sense of secure Belonging, the invitation to Belong, however longed for, can feel challenging at first

“Whether it shows up in the therapy room as avoidance, other attachment issues or even a shadow of hidden shame … the wound of not belonging comes with its own painful and often hidden secret stigma.”

The Belonging Wound

In this episode on the theme of Belonging and, by association, the deep wound of feeling you don’t belong, co-hosts Susan and Shaura are joined by Pilamaya's newly appointed Community Liaison Administrator and Pilamaya-trained fellow Integration Psychotherapist, Emily Wallace.

Emily shares how, for her, Belonging feels like it sits at the centre of being human — whether that be belonging to place within community, on land, within family systems, in time, or to the Self.

Susan explores how in her life, the wound of Not Belonging opened the pathway back eventually to Belonging to Self, (what Carl Jung would have called Individuation).

All three psychotherapists acknowledge how, for those for whom Belonging has not been modelled in earlier life stages, any invitation to truly Belong can feel threatening, and agree that for a system that has no understanding of what it might mean to belong securely to anything or anyone, perhaps even confrontational.

And in an inspiring conclusion, Shaura says “Essentially where we get to in the therapeutic space is around the question of belonging to Self. And at the end, if we can open ourselves to the infinite possibilities that are available for self-understanding and self-expression, then we begin to belong to the realm of possibility and therefore to life itself.”

For those who never had Belonging modelled in family or childhood it can take a long time to integrate any sense of being and feeling welcomes

This is a heartfelt and ultimately uplifting discussion on the ways Integration Psychotherapy invites us to find and even create new ways to Belong.

To ourselves.

To those new frameworks of Belonging that are making their way through the noise.

To our soul community.

To the new wave of consciousness that waits for those who hear the call.

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